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Lunacy – The Correct Word to Describe My Life Lately

 

I haven’t been around much lately. Life has been so crazy, that crazy isn’t even a strong enough word! Lunacy seems a little more accurate.

 

Ok, my life as a mom of 6, along with homeschooling all of them is a crazy life. I admit it. lol  So much more has been happening, though, to elevate life way beyond crazy.

 

It all started a couple of months ago. My oldest son was driving my car to work when he was rear ended at a red light. He was ok, except for whiplash. I did spend about 6 hours with him in the er, though. My car was damaged, but thanks to my husband, I could still drive it. He is an Auto Body Tech. The guy you take your car to to fix! So he checked it out, and fixed my tail light so I could still drive it while waiting to wade through all the insurance paperwork.

 

About a week and a half later, the other persons insurance company tells us they are totaling the car. We chose to buy it back from them, so had additional paperwork to do. We had to apply for a salvage title, then when that came back, apply for a rebuilt title before we could drive the car again. We found this out the hard way. I was out with the car while my husband went to the court house. He came and told me I couldn’t drive it anymore. Yikes! I did drive it home. Thankfully, it was only about 5 miles!

 

This is the part of the story that really starts the lunacy!

 

I have been driving my son to work every afternoon. So now that we were down to one car, I had so much more driving to do! Let me start by saying that my husband & son work in a different town than we live in. My husband works about 20 miles from home, and my son works about 23 miles away. Same direction as my husband, just 3 miles beyond his work. Due to traffic, it usually takes at least 30 minutes each way, sometimes more.

So I had to drive my husband to work in the morning. Drive my son to work in the afternoon. Drive to pick up my husband at work. Then one of us had to go pick up our son from work. Thankfully, my husband picked him up most days. There were several days, though, that I picked him up.

 

Are you catching that? I did 3 or 4 – 40+ mile round trips a day! That’s about 3 1/2 to 4 1/2 hours in the car. Every day. It sure felt like I was living in my car! Throw in cooking, cleaning, laundry, and homeschooling my 17 year old. I barely had time to breath!

 

Then on Memorial Day, while still having only one car, I spent over 6 hours in the er with my sick mother. Then a few days later I had to spent 8 or so hours with my sick son in the er. Then a few days later, I spent about 9 or 10 hours in the er with my yet again sick mother.

 

In a 10 day period, I took people to the er 3 times! That’s not counting doctor visits I took them to, as well. While still being a one car family. Thankfully, everyone is on the mend now. Except for 2 follow up appointments scheduled right now, I hope to stay far away for doctors and hospitals!

 

I finally got my car back a couple of weeks ago! I was so happy. For 4 days. That’s when we were driving down the highway, at about 59 mph, and a deer ran into our car! It was at 11:20 in the morning! We didn’t see it until right before it ran into the car.

 

It was a good 4 days! lol I lost the use of my car for another 2-3 days while my husband had the windshield replaced, put a new drivers side mirror on, and pounded out some dents. Lots of dents. At this point, I do not even car what the car looks like. As long as I can drive it, I couldn’t care less if it is dented.

 

So now I finally have my car back for real, I only have to take my son to work in the afternoon. My husband usually picks him up at night. Oh, what shall I do with all that free time?!

 

I thought that once I got my car back life would calm down. I should have known better! Especially since I had events scheduled on my calendar.

 

On Saturday, June 20, I hosted a wedding shower for my 18 year old daughter and her fiancee. It was a great shower! It just involved a lot of planning and prep. I plan on sharing shower pics later this week.

 

I volunteered in the kitchen at my church for VBS last week. So I was there 3-4 hours a night Sunday thru Thursday. While packing for….

 

2 days ago, on the 1st, we helped our 21 year old daughter move to a big city a couple of hours from home for college. She has attended a local community college for 3 semesters, while living at home. Now she will be going to a big university to finish her degree. She wants to get a B.S. in Anthropology. She spent a couple of years after homeschool high school working, and deciding what she really wanted to do. And now she’s going for it! I am so proud of her!

Her moving means that I now have to deal with all the “stuff” she left behind! I’m not sure how she crammed so much stuff in her bedroom. She took 2 car loads of stuff to college with her. And the rest has exploded all over my house!

 

That is a few of the major things that have made my life so crazy lately. There were many, many smaller things adding to the lunacy, too!

 

I spent yesterday on the couch all day with a bad headache. I didn’t even go to church it was so bad. My step counter registered under a thousand steps for the entire day.  So, yeah, I barely moved.

I have a bit of a lingering headache today. But I am ready to get back at it!

Ready to get this house in order after the shower and moving upheaval.

Ready to get back to blogging!

 

 

 

*Edited to add the part about the deer. My husband just told me I left it out. How could I forget that part?!

 

 

The Important Lesson I Finally Learned about Being a Mother

 

Some moms have this whole mothering thing down, and don’t have trouble with this. Then some of us moms, like me, are still learning lessons. I slowly learned this lesson over the last few years. What am I talking about?

 

The Important Lesson I Finally Learned about Being a Mother

 

Ok, here it is. The important lesson I finally learned about being a mother.

 

It’s ok to make yourself and your health a priority.

 

The Important Lesson I Finally Learned about Being a Mother

 

Now, to you, that may not seem like an earth shattering observation. To me it is. I have always put my family first over myself. And I know there are many, many mothers out there just like me.

 

I in no way mean if you are taking care of yourself that you are not putting your family first.

 

Like I said above, some mothers have it all figured out. Then some of us are so busy taking care of the husband, the kids, the house, homeschooling, church ministry,etc. that we don’t pay any attention to ourselves.

 

Sound familiar? You try to serve healthy, nutritious meals to your family. Yet you are so busy at meal times and snack times making sure that the kids are eating what they should that you don’t pay attention to what you are eating. You make sure the kids have physical activities to participate in, yet you don’t make sure you have enough time to exercise.

 

There is a reason the flight attendants tell you that if the plane is crashing to out your own oxygen mask on first.

 

You can’t take care of anyone else if you don’t take care of yourself first!
It is important to make sure you get enough rest.
It is Important to make sure you are physically active.
It is important to make sure you eat the healthy meals you are serving, not just pick at something while you are cooking and cleaning up the kitchen.

 

So now after years of putting myself last, I am working hard at putting myself first. Making time for exercise, even if that means someone has to wait for something instead of me doing for them right away. My “baby” is 16, so the whole family is capable of waiting. If you have an infant, or toddlers, it’s different. You may have to exercise while they are sleeping instead. You will have to figure out what works for you.

It is of utmost importance for women to get enough rest, exercise, and to eat healthy. Our lives, and the lives of those we love depend on it.

 

We can’t take care of others if we don’t take care of ourselves first!

 

I wish I had learned and applied this lesson years ago!

 

 

1 Cool Hair Trick I Learned From My Daughter

I was eating dinner with my daughter the other night, and she just casually tells me a hair trick that I had never heard before.

 

1 Cool Hair Trick I Learned From My Daughter

 

1 Cool Hair Trick I Learned From My Daughter

 

She told me that she learned to put the conditioner on her hair before shampooing. Put on the conditioner, then shampoo as you usually do.

 

I tried it.

 

It worked brilliantly!

 

I have oily hair, but need conditioner on the ends. I’ve never been able to find a happy medium before. Even if I only put the conditioner on the ends, it always seemed to climb up my hair and make my even more oily. But now… The bottom of my hair is soft, but not weighted down like conditioners can do. Plus, no conditioner on top of my head to make my hair even more oily.

 

This trick is really going to work for me!

You Call THAT a Serving Size?!

 

My family laughs at serving sizes.

My kids laugh.

My husband laughs.

 

I hear “You call THAT a serving size?!” all the time!

 

I am the only one in my family that cares about serving sizes. Well, of the family members that still live at home. A couple of my adult kids now care about serving sizes, although they didn’t when they were younger.

 

You Call THAT a Serving Size?!

 

You Call THAT a Serving Size?!

 

I have to say that I agree with my family. Sometimes! Some of the serving sizes are laughable. Like the serving size of a banana is 1/2 of one. Or 3 crackers. Who only eats three crackers with their soup? Of course, if you are having one serving of cheese, which a one ounce serving is about the size of a pair of dice, then 3 crackers would be proportionate.

 

I have always tried to teach my kids to eat healthy foods. I did let them have sugar snacks, too, I just tried to teach them moderation. That mostly worked until they got old enough to have money. Then they would run to the store and buy lots of junk food. Then proceed to eat it in front of me, “Look! I’m more then the serving size!”. lol They outgrew that, thankfully. They figured out that they would never have money for anything else if that kept spending all their money on junk food. An important lesson to learn for when they start doing their own grocery shopping.

 

Despite my family laughing at serving sizes, I still try to fight the good fight to try to teach them healthy eating. And that it’s ok to have snacks sometimes, too, in modest portions. Because how sad would life be without baking (& eating!) cookies with your kids, having birthday cake, wedding cake, and mom or grandma’s special dessert?

 

So if your family is like mine and laughs at serving sizes, just keep reminding them. Telling them, and showing them, what the correct servings sizes are will sink in eventually. Maybe not until they are adults, but you will have set them up for a lifetime of healthy eating.

 

 

What Do I Want my Second Act to Look Like?

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about what I want to do when I am finished homeschooling my children.

Our youngest is 16, with a couple of years of high school left to complete. Just having one student is so different from homeschooling all 6. I have a lot of time on my hands now. Time that I have been spending thinking.

 

What Do I Want my Second Act to Look Like?

 

What Do I Want My Second Act to Look Like?

My heart really is in volunteering and helping other people. Ii already volunteer a couple of hours a week. And I see myself spending a lot of time volunteering in several different places when my son graduates. I also see myself still being totally devoted to my family. I want to be available to my family for whatever they need. Help during an illness, help moving, etc., whatever they need.

Then there are the grandkids (hopefully, someday!). I want to be there in whatever capacity I am needed when my grandkids are on the way and are little. Hand holding, cooking, cleaning, babysitting, rocking those precious babies. I want to be the grandma that has sleepovers and bakes cookies with them, and attends all of their games/activities. I also want/need to earn some money, so I would continue working online with my own businesses.

Sounds like a full life doesn’t it?

 

But wait!

 

After my mother was in the hospital, something else has been on my heart and my mind. My mother was in the hospital for over 4 months, and she had to be on a ventilator. For the last 2 months of her hospitalization, she was in an amazing facility that had only people on ventilators. I got to witness first hand the work of a respiratory therapist. For the last 7 months or so, I have been thinking about becoming one. I would want to work in that facility. Which wouldn’t be a problem, I don’t think. The college I would go to for training puts students in this hospital for their clinical training. So I think getting a job there after I finish my training would be totally doable.

 

So this is my dilemma.

 

Do I want to go to school for 2.5 years, then work for several years? I will be 54 soon. I would be 56 almost 57 when I finished school. It is possible that I could work for 10 years after I finished school. I would really love to be a respiratory therapist in this hospital and make a difference in the lives of the people that my never get off a ventilator for the rest of their lives.

 

On the other hand…..can I really be as active in my family’s lives as I would like to be if I am going to school & working? What about volunteering? How would I fit in all the volunteering I would like to do if I am working? This ventilator facility is working on starting a volunteer program. I already asked to volunteer. So while it’s not an option right now, it will be later this year from what I have been told. I could make a difference in the quality of the patients lives by volunteering.

 

I am so conflicted! One day I know for sure what I want, and the next I don’t!

 

Ugggghhhh…..

 

Has anyone ever been through this? How did you ever decide what your second act would look like?

A Wedding in the City

 

We left the hills of Kentucky this past weekend to travel to the big city of Cincinnati for a family wedding. Our niece, on my husbands side, got married. We used to live outside Cincinnati, but we haven’t been back in several years.

 

The wedding ceremony was at an old church downtown.

 

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The church had not been used in 25 years, according to the website. Another church purchased it and finished the rehab just a couple of months ago.

 

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It looks like the outside was kept as the original. The inside was a combination of the original and the new. It had the most gorgeous stained glass windows.

 

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And an amazing ceiling and columns.  They had painted the bottom part of the walls black. They surrounded the columns with metal, lights, and speakers. Hung a large, retractable screen in the front.

 

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It’s so awesome that they rehabbed an old church so it could be used and enjoyed again. Only it left me feeling sad. Sad that they painted the walls black, and added so much modern “stuff”. Just my opinion, of course, but I can’t help but think how much more awesome the church would have been if the walls weren’t black and they had found another way to incorporate the technology.

 

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The ceremony was beautiful! Then we ventured back into Kentucky to an event center for the reception. We had never been to this Kentucky city before. So we got a little, shall we say, lost while trying to find it. I was reading the map on my phone, but it’s not my fault that my husband drives faster than the gps can spit out the directions! lol

 

The reception was a lot of fun! I meant to take the place card, but forgot it on the table! At least I got a picture of it, though.

 

They had a maid of honor, a matron of honor, and two best men. They all gave speeches, as well as the father of the bride, my husband’s brother. So there was a lot of toasting and glass clicking. Thankfully, they offered a non-alcoholic champagne version to drink. That’s what I, my husband, and our kids drank.

 

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They had a dessert table that included chocolate cakes, several different kinds of cookies, several different kinds of pies, candies, and a few different gluten-free desert options. They removed the wedding cake from the table before they turned us loose on the desserts. I’m not sure if they ever served wedding cake, as we left before the party and dancing was over. It was pretty, though.

 

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They had these to-go boxes on the dessert table along with a sign encouraging everyone to take some with them. It’s a neat idea, and gave us something to snack on for the almost 3 hour trip home.

 

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I saw this car in the parking garage and my first thought was it’s their car. After thinking about it, after I took the picture, I came to the conclusion that it couldn’t be their car. There were other parties going on at the event center, so it made sensee that it wouldn’t automatically be their car, but I didn’t do much thinking before I took the pic. lol So I ended up with a picture of some random car that belongs to some bride and groom that I don’t know. So I thought I’d share it with you. lol

 

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This next picture makes me laugh. I hadn’t worn high heels in years. The last time I remember wearing them was when our daughter got married 8 and a half years ago! I managed to get through the day, though, including walking down city sidewalks, and going down two sets of stairs to get to the reception. When we left the reception, I took them off to go back up the stairs. lol  I didn’t feel bad, though! When I was in line to get dinner from the buffet, I saw a woman that had taken her shoes off. So I lasted longer than she did. lol The walk back to the parking garage almost did me in! I so wanted to take the heels off and walk down the side walk in my stocking feet! I would have if it hadn’t been so cold out! I made it to just inside the parking garage before I took them off. lol

Those were some tough pantyhose! When I took them off that night and checked the feet, you could not even tell that I had walked quite a ways on cement with them. lol

 

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I guess you can take the woman out of the country to a city wedding, but you can’t take the country out of the woman!

 

 

Why We Don’t Celebrate Halloween

 

Both mine and my husband’s families all celebrated halloween when we were growing up. So it just seemed natural to us to do the same with our children.

 

We started out celebrating halloween with the kids when our oldest was 4 months old. We dressed them up in non scary costumes, and went out to see family and friends. We never went door to door in the neighborhood. By 1990, 4 years later, we decided that that wasn’t working for our family and that we would just have parties instead.

 

So we got together with some friends and had a halloween party for the kids. With games, decorating their own cupcakes, and a jack o lantern pinata. It was a lot of fun, for the kids and the adults. After that year, though, we felt parties weren’t the answer either. So at the age of 4 & 2, our 2 oldest kids had celebrated their last halloween. Our four youngest kids have never celebrated halloween. (I’m talking about while under the age of 18, by the way.)

 

Why We Don't Celebrate Halloween

 

Why We Don’t Celebrate Halloween

 

We just FELT that there wasn’t something right about it. So we set out to learn about the origins of halloween and what a lot of the halloween traditions started as and represent. This information convinced us that our feelings were right.

 

Over the years, our convictions about halloween have grown. In the beginning we didn’t know the facts that we later learned, we just knew how we felt. Yes, I believe that God gave us those feelings. Thankfully, we followed those feelings, and now we know why.

 

We only have one child under 18 now. Those over 18, 5 of them, have chosen different routes. One doesn’t celebrate halloween, one has celebrated halloween with parties, etc., two participate in trunk or treat at church, one just turned 18 and I don’t know what her choices will be yet.

 

No, we don’t hold it against others for trick or treating. Or our kids for deciding to participate in halloween activities after they turn 18. In fact, when we lived in an apartment for a few years, we purchased candy & Christian tracts to hand out to the kids that came to our door. All of our nieces and nephews celebrate halloween. And, no, we haven’t told them they shouldn’t. They just know that we don’t. It really hasn’t been a problem with our families. We live out in the country now, and don’t get trick or treaters. If we did, I would have to scramble to find something to give them. lol

 

A lot of churches encourage celebrating halloween, including hosting “Trunk or Treats”. They park their cars around the church parking lot, and the kids go from car to car and get candy. Call it what you want, it’s STILL trick or treating and it’s STILL celebrating halloween! And we don’t need halloween “alternatives”! Why do so many Christians have a hard time standing up and saying “This isn’t a Christian holiday, and we aren’t going to celebrate it?!”

 

That being said, I do not tell others they shouldn’t celebrate halloween.  In fact, you very well may see me liking and sharing other people’s halloween posts on social media. Because, come on, their kids are cute! And some of those recipes look really yummy!

 

Celebrating or not celebrating halloween is a matter of fun for some and a matter of conscience for others. Not celebrating halloween has been the right thing for our family.