disclaimer
I am in no way implying that my kids are perfect. I know they’re not, I take care of them, remember? This is not about having perfect children. This is about the adults behavior.
When we were shopping today, the woman, who I believe to be the Grandmother, came around the corner with the kid already crying. And we heard her say, “What do you think happened to your chalkboard? (kid cries louder) We threw it away. Where do you think your missing toys went? And if you don’t stop crying I’m going to take away the rest of your toys! (kid cries louder)”
Well NO wonder the poor kid is crying loudly! The woman wasn’t even trying to keep quiet. She was saying all this loudly, for the whole store to hear. My kids are all looking at me shocked! They always look when a child is screaming in the store. Hard not to look, but this was different. They were shocked that the adult was saying these things to the child, who was 4 or 5. Then she said, “Do you want to go to so and so’s house while I go to the chiro tomorrow?” crying kid says yes “Well, your not going to go because you won’t behave” Kid cries louder!
This went on while we all went to the check out while we continued to walk near each other. They went through the checkout ahead of us. And she kept talking this way to him. Then, we went to the van, and they happened to be parked right next to us. So I got my stuff loaded up. And the woman climbed behind the steering wheel saying “Your the whiniest kid I’ve ever seen” then she shut the door.
I really felt sorry for the little kid. No wonder he can’t behave if he’s subjected to this constant barrage of complaints and threats and criticism! My kids didn’t know what to do. They said it was mean they way she was talking to him. Now, I do sometimes raise my voice (sometimes just to be heard about they kid noise, and the piano that is usually playing ALL THE TIME! like now! It sure does make it hard to think!!), but I don’t talk “mean” like that.
Ok, enough of that! I have to go do something about supper!