Mother of Pearl Mother’s Day Blog Series #4

And to all you MOMS out there! Happy Mother’s Day!

Adoption, a Mother’s Greatest Gift
by Tricia Goyer

I held the small baby in my arms, wrapped up in a receiving blanket to keep her warm
from the chill of the delivery room, and a voice spoke to me. “Congratulations, Mom.”

The congratulations came from an unlikely source–the grandmother of this child, the
mother of the sweet birth mother who chose adoption for her baby girl.

To say I was overwhelmed is an understatement. Thankfulness filled my heart–to God
who’d answered my prayers and to the birth mom who’d chosen our family for her
daughter. I also ached that my joy would be another’s heartache. Working with teen

moms for ten years, I was often an advocate for the young mother. I knew that while the
weeks and months ahead would be a time of celebration for our family, they would be
ones of heartache and grieving for this woman.

Adoption is a wonder and the beauty, and the sacrifice of it is never so clear as on
Mother’s Day. My new daughter is one-years-old now and she huge is a part of my heart.
Her life is a gift to my days and her smile can make even the most dreary afternoon
bright. I can honestly say there is no difference in the love I feel between her and my
three other children. If anything the love feels even more special because she was an
unexpected gift. John and I learned about her life just 2 ½ months prior to her being born.
The years of prayers to expand our family were answered quickly and beautifully.

The sacrifice of adoption makes my heart ache, for I know on this Mother’s Day another
woman will be thinking about my daughter—her daughter. As I rejoice, I’ll be crying
tears for her. I’ll also be sending up prayers that God will wrap His arms around her in a
special way.

This Mother’s Day I cannot help to think about Christ’s sacrifice to make our adoption
into God’s family possible. Maybe it’s because just a few weeks ago we were celebrating
Easter, but I’m reminded anew that my gain required His loss, His pain. The greatest love,
it seems, is not shown with flowers, chocolate or a diamond bracelet. The greatest love
is shown when, because of your love for another, your desires and comfort are laid down
for the greater good of someone else.

As Ephesians 1:3 says, “How blessed is God! And what a blessing he is! He’s the
Father of our Master, Jesus Christ, and takes us to the high places of blessing in him.
Long before he laid down earth’s foundations, he had us in mind, had settled on us as the
focus of his love, to be made whole and holy by his love. Long, long ago he decided to
adopt us into his family through Jesus Christ. (What pleasure he took in planning this!
) He wanted us to enter into the celebration of his lavish gift-giving by the hand of his
beloved Son” (The Message).

Perhaps you know an adoptive mother. Take time this Mother’s Day to let her know that
the beauty of her gift is not missed by you. Also, take time to thank God for adopting you
into His forever family, thanking Jesus Christ for His sacrifice. I wouldn’t be the mother I
am without this Gift of Love.

Tricia Goyer is the author of twenty-six books including Beside Still Waters, The
Swiss Courier, and the mommy memoir, Blue Like Play Dough. She won Historical
Novel of the Year in 2005 and 2006 from ACFW, and was honored with the Writer of the
Year award from Mt. Hermon Writer’s Conference in 2003. Tricia’s book Life Interrupted
was a finalist for the Gold Medallion in 2005. In addition to her novels, Tricia writes non-
fiction books and magazine articles for publications like MomSense and Thriving Family.
Tricia is a regular speaker at conventions and conferences, and has been a workshop
presenter at the MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers) International Conventions. She and her
family make their home in Little Rock, Arkansas where they are part of the ministry of